Dating Personality Clashes

I am One Picky S.O.B.

I know what I have to do, but I don’t like it. First I am one picky S.O.B. when it comes to women. I am too good to waste my time with a girl if she shows no sign of intelligence and talent… I’m careless if they are gorgeous still will I stay away from the pearl. Two women I know and are perfect to me. Both know about each other and know how I feel about them, also know how I feel about the other. I like them both, but I can’t have any of them. Both feel the same about me and know they can’t have me. I am single, but they both are not. Nothing has happened yet with any of us. One is engaged to be married so she is putting her feelings aside; the other wants a relationship but same last name. Both girls are not related to me in any way whatsoever. Same last name marriage is prohibited in my culture. The engaged one wants me to be happy with the other but doesn’t understand the “rules.” The other wants me to be happy, but left it at that. SUCKS!!! I guess I just need relationship advice. I know what I need to do, but I DON’T LIKE IT!


– Fatalism

Aphrodite says:
December 7, 2009 at 2:19 pm
I think the problem is that neither woman is interested in you at all. I’m sorry to say it, because you seem to really care about them both. Ask yourself why you want two women whom you can’t have. Is it a commitment issue? I think you need to find someone who really is perfect for you and not someone who is unavailable. 🙂 Good luck!

Tara says:
December 7, 2009 at 2:20 pm
Sorry to hear of your situation- and by the way, best of wishes.
It may be too late to have a happy ending with either of these women.
Maybe in future relationships– try to find someone not already involved.
maybe ask yourself why you are drawn to commited women. do you have a fear of commitment?
Also- these women are having a relationship with you while already being involved. is that the moral of “the woman” that you’d consider marrying?

Daisy says:
December 7, 2009 at 2:21 pm
Well I read ur story. bad things always seem to happen to the best of people. but hey, look at it like this, if you can get over this little obstacle of life then you are ready for bigger opportunities and decisions. i’ve learned that nobody else (not even a best friend) can tell you what to do in a relationship unless they are in it. the only thing they can do is be there to catch you when you fall back and need some pushing up.

Destinie says:
December 7, 2009 at 2:22 pm
Well I think you are picky try someone different i tried it and it worked
I guess well try some one that is opposite than u well besides the sex of them i mean if you like rock and she likes hip hop you get it dont u?
Get some one who loves u 4 who you are. its hard trust me ive gone threw a million guys. waiting 4 that one who appreciates me 4 who i am
and you think that if you cant get either one of them you cant get nobody im sorry but yeah
Azariah says:
December 7, 2009 at 2:22 pm
As much as u want them there has to be someone else out there for u i promise and my rule is never make a promise u cant keep if god wills u will find someone that is just your type and if god wills u wont! thats just the way life goes

dieselfit says:
September 9, 2013 at 11:02 am
You couldn’t be more right, intelligence and heart is the number one factor any girl can have. I can see how many men don’t care for these factors, though in the long run they will have these regrets and wishes that they did!

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One Comment

  1. Well, obviously, it seems you have to move on. When you find the third and the right one you will know there is never only one in the entire world out there for you. I think, as a picky S.O.B., you are lucky enough to have already met two intelligent women you care about. If you can meet two then you will meet the third and the right one. If you meet millions but you still can’t find the right one for varied reasons each time then you are absolutely right that you are super picky.

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