How Divorce Mediation Helps Couple Split Amicably
If you’re like most people these days, you know someone who has been through a messy divorce. Not every divorce ends in lawyers and court rulings and name-calling, but quite often those bad feelings that resulted in the divorce begin with spill over in the settlement part of the process.
Many couples turn to divorce mediation to settle their differences and find a solution. Just because a marriage didn’t work, doesn’t mean the union can’t be ended amicably and fairly. The goals of divorce mediation usually make this a reality.
Divorce mediation is run by a mediator, who is a third party with absolutely no stake in the outcome of your divorce settlement. Since the mediator has nothing to gain from the outcome, he or she is often able to see solutions that the divorcing couple can’t see. A mediator will make suggestions and give advice, but they can’t try to force an agreement one way or the other.
Open Lines of Communication
One of the primary goals of divorce mediation is to open up the lines of communication when they have been shut down. So often in the case of divorce, the two parties involved stop talking and can’t even get through a few sentences without disagreeing. Mediation will either help you to learn how to talk through the issues you need to talk about, or provide a place where you can go to have help when necessary.
When couples have children, their communication doesn’t stop when the divorce papers are signed. In many cases they will still have to communicate for years afterward, so it makes sense to learn how to do it peacefully.
Resolve Custody & Support Issues
Custody and support are two major sticking points in many divorces. While a mediator can’t make the decisions for you, he can help guide you and figure out a parenting plan that has the least amount of impact on the kids. Through divorce mediation, both parties can have input and customize a plan that works best for everyone involved. When the courts are involved, the legal definitions are stricter and there is less wiggle room for adjustments in scheduling.
Save Time & Money
In the vast majority of cases, divorce mediation saves a lot of time and money over the traditional way of doing things. Legal fees and court fees can add up very quickly, and the typical caseload in family court means you may have to wait for months to even get the process going. Choosing mediation helps you to avoid the standard court procedure and get things done faster and for less.
A Mutual Solution
When divorce mediation has been successful, both parties will reach a mutual agreement on all issues, and will have found a way to communicate in the future. The fact that both parties contribute and help to form the agreement allows everyone to feel as though they’ve been treated fairly once it’s over.
So often in court, decisions are forced upon you without any input at all. Divorce is rarely the solution anybody wants, but at least with mediation everyone can feel like they’ve won.