Responsible

As I mentioned in checklist that narcissists are probably the most responsible people, just like this dialogue in Happy Pie:
- Who is the most responsible?
- The business person, like me.
Narcissists are the most successful people, not only because they are smart, but also, they are responsible and hard-working. Except for Adolf Hitler and a few other narcissists who made huge mistakes (destructive ones), narcissists are still undeniable good candidates for leaders. Be sure to pick out a productive narcissist.

In my humble opinion, behind or beside some elected non-narcissistic leaders, there is likely a narcissist who is the real "conductor".

My point is, to be too close to a narcissist, especially a destructive narcissist, as a lover, spouse or follower, you need to be a perfect "masochist" and make sure he / she is a productive narcissist who deserves your sacrifice; otherwise, to stay away is wise and the wisest is to "keep him / her at an arm's length", and you will be benefited without torture. Narcissists are the most helpful when they are calm. - the end

Checklist

Of course narcissists also have other traits, but I see them as minor ones; they may help you spot a narcissist, however, they are not vital enough to convince you to stay far away from them.

No one is perfect; we are not sages but humans, and the following mentioned, in my humble opnion, is OK to get along with.

1. a narcissist has fantasies of doing something great or being famous, and often expects to be treated as if these fantasies had already come true. (my note: that's probably why they do succeed finally)

2. a narcissist has very little interest in what other people are thinking or feeling, unless he or she wants something from them. (my note: you also do want something from them, do you?)

3. a narcissist is a name dropper. (my note: not only narcissists are namedroppers)

4. To a narcissist it is very important to live in the right place and associate with the right people. (my note: everyone does)

5. a narcissist takes advantage of other people to achieve his or her own goals. (my note: do you not?)

6. a narcissist often feels put upon when asked to take care of his or her responsibilities to family, friends, or work group. (my note: not really; they are probably the most responsible people, but, it's also correct that they don't trust people)

7. a narcissist regularly disregards rules or expects them to be changed because he or she is in some way special. (my note: when it happens, just neglect them)

8. a narcissist becomes irritated when other people don't automatically do what he or she wants them to do, even when they have a good reason for not complying. (my note: this one is somewhat similar to "poor loser" rule, however, if you choose to stay, just comply)

9. a narcissist reviews sports, art, and literature by telling you what he or she would have done instead. (my note: you just need to listen and this may challenge your imagination)

10. a narcissist thinks most criticisms of him or her are motivated by jealousy. (my note: so don't criticise)

11. a narcissist regards anything short of worship to be rejection. (my note: this one is similar to admiration rule)

12. a narcissist suffers from a congenital inability to recognize his or her own mistakes. On the rare occasions that he / she does recognize a mistake, even the slightest error can precipitate a major depression. (my note: if it's a congenital inability then forget it; to prevent them from being depressed and meanwhile keep yourself from being depressed, either you keep distance or are determined to sacrifice yourself)

13. a narcissist often explains why people who are better known than he or she is not really all that great. (my note: storyteller)

14. a narcissist often complains of being mistreated or misunderstood. (my note: he / she might be right; you are not able to fully understand him / her, including his / her congenital inability, untill you read this)

15. People either love or hate the narcissist. (my note: what about you?) - to be continued

Narcissist vs. Guardian

Most people are in some way narcissistic or have the trait, but the "narcissists" we are discussing here are those whose narcissism has been enlarged to the extreme extent that it severely affects people around them.

There's a theory out there that believes that most well-known successful people are narcissists, while I have a different view. In that theory, all those famous people who have different temperaments as defined in Dr. Keirsey's theory, are labeled as narcissists, including Bill Gates and the like, which I can't seem to agree. I may not have the right to say so, in that, I had no chance living in a life close to them to proof it. However, in that theory, it mentions four types of people: narcissist, sensualist, utilitarian and marketing, and they are exactly what Dr. Keirsey describes as guardian, idealist, rational and artisan, in this case, I would say, Bill Gates is not a narcissist, at most, he is a narcissistic rational.

The theory also classifies narcissist as productive and destructive narcissist, therefore, the toughminded guardian is probably the destructive narcissist we are talking about. They are the most successful type of people outside the United States, in that, more people tend to follow them in a non-democratic society. - to be continued

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Poor Loser

We all make mistakes, do we? But with a narcissist (I will try to use more "a narcissist" instead of "narcissists", because obviously "one" is way enough), you should never make a mistake. It sounds good in some way, in that, with such a narcissist, you will be or at least towards the most perfect person, however, as a narcissist, he / she will never admit he / she makes mistakes.

It's not that narcissists, they don't make mistakes, on the contrary, they make the same amount of mistakes, or even worse, when they insist on their correctness, they may end up with a wrong decision.

As long as there's a mistake, the narcissist will blame you, but never blame himself / herself, even if the fault is extremely apparent at his / hers.

How will you deal with this? I suggest you never to argue with a narcissist over who is wrong if you do want to be with a him / her, since you will never win and the arguing never helps solve problems. It really doesn't matter who admits who is wrong, because in the narcissist's heart, he / she senses who is wrong (he / she is super smart don't forget). You should be the most broadminded to contain a narcissist if you do want to stay with him / her. Sometimes it's real tough, in that, he / she will keep blaming you till he / she is exhausted; it's better for you to take it as if he / she was actually blaming himself / herself if this helps.

Anyway, it's your decision whether to keep a relationship with a narcissist or not. The above is just my humble suggestion; mostly it's a mental torture to carry on said suggestion. - to be continued

Drug and Relationship 2

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Narcissist 3

Wife

Since narcissists pursue admiration rather than love, the future wife they are chasing is usually the standard virtuous and helpful wife and mom of children. The wife must be beautiful and gentle; she is the one who is taking care of everything for him silently. If it means that she must give up her own career, then she should. Behind every narcissist is a great self-sacrifice woman. She must be perfect and does everything perfectly. This is not the end of the story. Some day the narcissist will meet another narcissist and fall in love with each other. Because there is a gentle woman who is there silently taking care of everything for him, the narcissist can totally enjoy the good time with his new narcissistic lover.

Please read a poem from the ex-wife of a typical narcissist, a.k.a., sadist.

- to be continued

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Love or Sex

so there is this girl i say i love and i do. she and i dated for like a year and 2 months and we broke up now. she is with another man and is having his kid along with their marriage. now every a few months she calls me again and wants to come over. we have sex and talk about our love. now every time she leaves again she tells me she won't do that. what should i do? i am at my end really; war sounds better than this game. i'm even thinking about moving all the way across states to get away. help me please

- tres