Love or not 3

Love or be loved
alright tricky situation here. I found out that my boyfriend of a year cheated on me a while ago, so I broke up with him even thought I was crazy in love with him, I thought it was for the best and that I wouldn't feel the same anyways. Well, it has been a couple of months, and I went to homecoming with a guy i'm not too crazy about but who is really sweet to me. But i cannot stop thinking about my ex and i still love him so much and miss him more than life. I feel like im not being fair to the new guy and I really want to get back with my ex. im not gonna go into detail but he has definitely showed me that he has changed. advice?

- Unknown

Best friend vs. Girlfriend

hey guyz i have a problem dat makes me feel dat i will go jump into the sea every minute i think about it
i was havin a friend, a real friend, and my love(the problem) was in my school from kj with me
when i go old and old i begin to love her now i like her more than u can imagine
but while i was goin with her to the cinema , i met the friend the best friend for me
then he goes with us
and heres the surprise she loves him and he loves her in only a minute and i was lovin her more than 3 years and i was shy from telling her
what can i do ????????????????????????

- HayTheM

Shy Guy 2

I have a bf that is pretty shy..i can say..he is always shy to even talk to me at school...ppl do know we are going out and all...but it's like i have to make the move all the time you know??...what do you think i should do?? should i break up with him? how can i make him change??

- Love_angel

Hurtful Things

ok here is the deal. i love my girlfriend a lot. we've been together a year. she told me today, that when she first saw a picture of me (we met thru a friend) she thought i wasnt that great looking, that i had a great body but not face. then after she met me in person, she told me she thought i was "a lil better". basically she made it clear she wasnt attracted to me, even saying a quote "in the beginning i wasnt sure if i was gonna keep talking to you or not" and i said becuz of how i looked, and she said yes. now she tells me she loves me and all this and only wants me. but i mean im a guy; i wanna feel attracted to her. its like she only wants to be with me cuz she loves me and loves my personality. i dont wanna leave her, but i dont feel the same. what should i do??

- Buffguy

Love or not 2

Get past the feelings
Tell me how do you get past all the hurt and sorrow of a relation ship gone bad. the reasons why it had to end werent your doing it was the other that did wrong why is it i long to, forgive wishing things would miraculously change knowing deep inside it was never meant to be under existing circumstances he could never provide what i needed i still wish it was he who stood beside me or the person on the other end of the phone when it rings?

- Angelicbutterfly

Better Couple

10 steps to enjoying each other better...
1. Be realistic about each other. Don't try to turn ur partner into something he or she is not. Let's face it, guys-there's only 1 Pamela Anderson in the world, and even she has had her implants removed! Give ur gal a break and understand that her physical appearance is NOT going to change overnite with the help of a few facials or treatments. And ladies, Brad Pitt has already been taken, so u're gonna have to do with what ur guy is like! Chill out, love each other for what u are. There is more to ur partner than what meets the eye.
2. Always talk things out. Now guys, I know this is not ur fave pastime or mode of resolving issues, but u know what? This works with the gals. Don't make assumptions about each other's feelings. Learn to xpress urself better so that ur partner undrstands what u're angry about, or hurt about, or even happy about! When u stop talking to each other from the heart, it's the beginning of the end.
3. Do stuff together. Make an effort to do things together. Do some sports or involve urselves in some shared activities; something both of u enjoy or are interested in. It could be as simple as watching movies together, or just strolling hand-in-hand down Orchard Road. Watch soccor with him once in a while though the green patch on TV puts u to sleep in 3 seconds. And guys, do give in if ur gal asks for another day at window-shopping, rather than suggest that she go out with her girlfriends for "that sort of activities" instead. If u're spending more time with ur friends rather than with ur partner, it's a warning sign that u're drifting apart!!!
4. Meet each other halfway. If he agrees to throw out that rotten T-shirt with the "The_Rock" print, u shouldn't kick up much of a fuss if he asks u to keep ur room tidy. There's gotta be a little giving and taking in a relationship, so learn to meet each other halfway.
5.Show ur love Buy her flowers or candy or perfume every now and then, even if u have been together for 5 years. It's wonderful to continue showing someone that u care for him or her. Cook him a special meal, paint him a Valentine's Day card. Knit him mini-socks he can't wear ( like for decoration purposes ), buy him a packet of milk for breakfast, or pack his wardrobe for him...so he knows u can still be romantic and loving despite having been together for quite a while.
6. Respect each other. Stop making jokes about her hair or skin, or whatever it is u love to laugh at. Ask urself if she thinks if its funny. And if he has an inferiority complex about his height, stop ogling at tall guys and make him feel worse! Love is about respecting each other's feelings and being sensitive to each other at all times.
7. Bury the past. Stop bringing up the past. Gals..don't bring up the happy things about u and ur ex to ur guy, it would jus make him jealous or unhappy. And guys, don't talk about the happy times that u had with ur ex or mention about her in ur every other sentence as it would make ur gal feel un-happy and she might think that u saying all this b'cos u are gonna get back with ur ex or not interested in her anymore.
8. Sit on ur jealousy. All of us go thru' spells of insecurity at the beginning of the relationship, but don't translate that insecurity into jealousy. If u're gonna go through ur partner's mail and cupboard, and eavesdropping on conversations, u know something is wrong - with u!!! Jealousy is like a poison that slowly spreads thru' the relationship before finally killing it. Trust ur partner; love has to have trust in it.
9. Keep ur commitments to each other. If ur partner is standing u up all the time and cancelling dates and breaking promises, u need to talk! If u're in a relationship, make ur partner ur priority and don't disappoint them if u can help it. It's really terrible when someone promises to take u to dinner, and then calls to cancel it. Don't make promises u can't keep. If ur partner starts to feel that he/she is not important enough to u, u may jus lose him/her.
10. Be honest. Honesty is not scowling at how awful she looks first thing in the morning, or telling him that he has the biceps of a fly ! When we say "be honest", we mean expressing ur feelings clearly, not being bitingly cruel. When u're hurt, say so, and when u're angry, tell him/her, w/o getting hysterical. If u can't be honest with ur partner, who can u be honest with? æ Love is also about honesty, and a relationship where no honesty exists probably isn't worth it!

- Unknown

Shy Guy 1

Okay on Monday I went to best buy to get some CDs. As I was walking in I saw one of my brothers old friends(He doesn't talk to her because he has a girl friend now and she is mad about that)I've had a crush on her for quite sometime. So I decided that I was going to try to get her number. So I wandered the whole store for about an hour trying to get the balls to go up to her and talk to her. So I finally pick the CDs I wanted to buy and I went in line(she is a cashier). There were two cashiers so I had a 50% chance that I would get her register. I decided if I didn't her register then it wasn't meant to be and I'd go home. But as fate would have it I got here register. So as soon as I walked up I could tell she new I was my brothers brother, So I used that to break the ice and said "hey your my brothers friend aren't you". So we started talking about stuff. Then somehow we started talking about my brother and how much of a punk he is ever since he started going out with his girlfriend. I was trying so hard to find a way to ask her for her number but couldn't do it. Then the next person in line came up. So I felt a little rushed(but it was just in my mind)So I decided to say bye and left the store. As I was walking out of the store I told my cousin(my ride) what happened. I felt ashamed that I wimped out. But then I got this gut reaction telling me to go back in and get her number. So I acted on my gut reaction and went back in. I said "I don't know where my ride is but I was thinking maybe we should hang out sometime." She said something like "yeah that would be cool, but do you have a car?" I said "no, I thought you did?" She said "Yeah but I'm not insured."I was like damn, then I said "well maybe I can work something out, I'll probably get my car in two weeks." "She said okay cool." I said as a test to see if she was serious "I'll get your number from my brother" she said "No I'll give it to you now". She gave me her number and I can't really remember what happened after that, it all happened so fast. I remember saying bye and leaving. But she was really friendly and cool and had no problem giving me her number. So I left and went home. I decided that I'll call her the next day. So the next day comes by and I decided to call her at 9:30 at night(It gives a new episode of the real world on Tuesday at 10, I remember when she use to talk to my brother that she would always be home at that time watching the real world). So I some how got the balls to call her but she didn't pick up, and I didn't leave a message. She never returned the call, it made me wonder if she didn't recognize the number(she should have the number(she used to talk to my brother from my house number), Maybe she didn't know who it was and because I didn't leave a message she didn't call back. But despite that fact I was pretty ashamed that she didn't call back. So I was ready to give up but then decided to call back but on Thursday. So on Thursday I came back from work around 1 pm. I decided to call her again. So once again I tried to summon the balls to call again. So I dialed her number, but accidently pressed the last digit twice, then my sister comes in and says "what are you doing? I'm gonna use the phone. Who are you calling? It's ringing." I panicked and told her to hang up. So I wondered if I dialed the last digit twice will it still call her? So I tried that on my cell phone to see if it would call, and it did! So I called her number and only let it ring a few times! I was so mad! So without thinking I called her number, and no one picked up again. But this time I left a message I said something like "Hey Elizabeth(her name), this is Andrew(my name) Oscars(my brother's name") brother. I was calling to see whats up. When you get back give me a call, bye." Like the idiot I am I forgot to leave my number! But I assumed she still has my number because she use to call my house when she talked to my brother. I never gave her my number at best buy because I assumed she still had it. Well now it's Saturday and still no call. Now I need help on what to do, should I call back and leave my number? But if I call it might make me seem desperate because I called twice plus that mistake call. What if she didn't call on purpose because she doesn't want to talk to me. I after all did leave a message saying who I was. Even if she calls she could think "why is he calling? He doesn't have a car?"(I have a car but I just need to get my license. I have started practicing driving so I should be ready for the test in two weeks). Should I go back to best buy when I have a car? Should I just give up? What would you do?

- Wordno

Love or not 1

Well me and my bf broke up b-4 valentines day and b-4 I gave him my bff home number and he called her and talked and all out of no where he broke up with me b-cuz he was afraid to fall in love with me. He stopped calling or talking to me when I went to my other bff's house on Wed. night for church. So I started writing poems and crap. They kept talking to each other. And then today they go out and every-1 at skool asks if it bothers me and I tell them no. My mind says let him go but my heart says hold on. Ya..but see I like his "ex" best friend..and he likes me..so we go sk8ing and I turn emo again...we go outside and flirt. I felt bad but happy. However, I just really want my EX to at lease talk or call...even walk up and tell me he still cares bout me. I mean..Im so confused...and this has been happening since 1month and 2weeks ago..just plz help

-Confused Emo-

Boyfriend vs. Parents

I love my boyfriend to death weve been together almost 2 yrs. we were hiding it from our parents cause i know they wouldnt like him. know they know and want me to stop talking to him but i can't i love him and don't want to lose him. then i don't want my parents to be mad please help me

- Quit girl

Two Women

I know what I have to do, but I don't like it. First I am one picky S.O.B. when it comes to women. I am too good to waste my time with a girl if she shows no sign of intelligence and talent... I'm careless if they are gorgeous still will I stay away from the pearl. Two women I know and are perfect to me. Both know about each other and know how I feel about them, also know how I feel about the other. I like them both, but I can't have any of them. Both feel the same about me and know they can't have me. I am single, but they both are not. Nothing has happened yet with any of us. One is engaged to be married so she is putting her feelings aside; the other wants a relationship but same last name. Both girls are not related to me in any way whatsoever. Same last name marriage is prohibited in my culture. The engaged one wants me to be happy with the other but doesn't understand the "rules." The other wants me to be happy, but left it at that. SUCKS!!! I guess I just need feedbacks more than I need advice. I know what I need to do, but I DON'T LIKE IT!

- Fatalism

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